One good question for anyone texting girls is this…when should you text? Does it matter if it’s 10 AM vs 10 PM? And does it vary by person? I say yes to all of these…let’s look at some details.
First off, the times to text depend on the day of the week. In general, I group it like so:
1. Monday through Friday afternoon — Work/School time, where you can assume girls are usually at class or earning a living for most of the daytime, and that they probably don’t want to be having 2 AM text exchanges with new guys.
2. Friday evening through Saturday night — Fun time, as girls with social lives–which include most any attractive girl that you’d want to text–are going to be hitting parties, going clubbing, and generally hanging out with their nearest and dearest. Which, for our purposes, is not yet you.
3. Sunday — The transition day, where the rules work a little differently…more to come on that subject.
For work-week texting, you have several options. I’ve found that texting during the actual working day–say between 10 AM and 4 PM–can be effective with 9 to 5 office workers. I would not text earlier than 10 nor later than 4, as you run into people who work different shifts and/or will be more worried about either getting settled into work or commuting home rather than talking to you. For students, this range also holds true as not all of them have morning classes, and texting before 10 can lead to conflicts.
I would generally avoid texting around the end of the workday and through dinner time, which goes from roughly 4 PM to 8 PM for most girls. They usually are either busy going somewhere, having dinner with or without friends, or generally caught up in something.
That leaves the sweet spot of 8 PM to roughly 11 PM. For most girls, they’re going to be in the wind-down part of their night by 8, and you can text them with a good chance of response up through 10 to perhaps 11. I would text no later, unless you’re dealing with a girl who works nights (such as a bartender).
Weekend texting brings a different set of hazards. As much as no one enjoys games, it’s in your best interests to seem like a guy with a lively nightlife, which means that even if you’re sitting at home watching Lost reruns at 10 PM on a Friday…you don’t want her to know that.
For that reason, I consider texting later than 7 to 8 PM on both Friday and Saturday a bad move, unless you’re using a mass invite or the like to try to meet up with her that night. That’s a more advanced tactic, so for now, I say stay away from that time slot. Meanwhile, you can text on the afternoons as normal, which can be useful for setting up that same-night rendevous.
The one other exception is that when you meet a girl that night, you can safely text her at the end (say around 2 AM). See this article on sending the flirty text for a description of the same-night text.
Lastly, we have Sunday, the day of transitioning from weekend fun to workweek drudgery. Time-wise, treat this like a work-week: it’s effective to text either afternoon or late evening, but no later than 11.
Sundays have a very nice perk to them, however: as they happen at the end of the weekend, where most single girls are still single and probably had a night or two out without meeting cool guys, they tend to be more open to talking to new men in their lives. For that reason, I will almost always text girls Sunday evenings between 8 to 10 PM, maybe a touch later. It’s your single best time slot during the week.
Keep these date and time arrangements in mind, and you’ll give your text girls game a boost. Contacting her at the wrong time–either 7 AM Tuesday morning or midnight on a Friday–will potentially hurt your burgeoning relationship, so pay attention to the time boundaries and enjoy the rewards.
Interested in how to send flirty texts and be successful with seeing her again? Check out this book, which takes you through everything you need to know about what to text her, when to text, and how to handle her both when she’s already into you and when you have to do some work to get her interested.